Social Justice Technologist and Sexual Freedom Activist


Maymay is based in San Francisco, CA, but travels regularly.



An open source programmer “by day” and a sexual freedom advocate “by night,” Maymay has been an outspoken member of kinky, queer communities since 2002. Now a full-time activist, writer, and public speaker, he frequently examines cultural and political issues ranging from censorship to community building and beyond on his blog at Using an interdisciplinary approach that treats sexuality as a lens on the rest of life, Maymay also hosts the Internet talk show, authors the explicit photography blog, and founded the all-ages series of sexuality education unconferences. Since its inception in New York City in 2009, educators and activists brought KinkForAll to 5 cities across America including Washington, DC and San Francisco. He currently volunteers as the Chair of the Technology Special Committee for Conversio Virium, America’s oldest student-run BDSM education group.

Maymay’s seminars have been featured at conferences from coast to coast, and he regularly injects sex-positivity into each and every community he geeks out with. His presentations, lectures, and workshops focus on queer identity and experience, sexuality, media and censorship, gender (with a focus on masculinity), technology, and especially the intersection of these things. As a social justice technologist, maymay rallies hackers, Makers, DIY enthusiasts, environmentalists and myriad other groups to support sex-positive feminism. As a sexual freedom activist, maymay works to connect enclaves of the sex-positive movement with one another through the power of the Internet and social networking.

Moreover, as a sexually submissive man himself, maymay’s known for challenging deeply-held beliefs about “kinky” sex by exploring common visual depictions of sexually dominant women, and especially submissive men. His work has been highlighted by the internationally-distributed counter-culture publication Filament Magazine, feminist books such as Reclaiming the F Word, and academic works like Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy. Maymay’s theorizing draws heavily from the free and open-source software movement, whose principles of transparency, accessibility, and diversity underpin everything he does.


Maymay is known for his provocative take on topics including male sexuality, masochism, singletail bottoming, bondage, male submission (and female domination), erotic artwork, masculinity, bisexuality, gender studies, polyamory, orgasm control, technology, sexual politics, (anti-), , and community building. He is an impassioned public speaker, technical author and blogger. Maymay gives presentations and speaks on panels about social media, BDSM, gender and technology, youth sexual rights and sex education, sexual freedom, and community organizing.

Maymay is available for bookings to lead seminars and facilitate workshops including the following partial list:

See also an overview of maymay’s additional presentations and publications to learn more.

Contact Information:

Telephone: (323) 963-4827


Browse all of Maymay’s Kink Academy videos.





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