Shyness is not only a factor of being around strange people – letting people you know that you’re kinky can be incredibly scary. Mollena talks about different strategies for letting those close to you know about your authentic desires without risking blowback. She also talks about how important it can be to make sure you [...]
Scotty and Annie continue to illustrate ways to include forceful fantasy into your foreplay. Building on the skills learned in the “clothing” segment, Scotty teaches techniques such as how to move your hips and arms to pull your partner’s body into you with a sensual “slam.”
Miss Simone covers some of the practical issues of playing with ball gags in this two-part clip. First she brings up some things to consider, such as the matter of marks left by straps as well as the necessity of some kind of “safe” signal. The mistress also covers the different types of straps and [...]
Kitty Stryker discusses negotiation and consent during this five-minute video. She recommends fun, flirtatious, and sexy ways both to move your chit-chat to pillow talk and cultivate a consent culture. She shares personal experiences and ideas on tone of voice and body language as well as positive ways to react to affirmative and negative responses [...]
Want to not only keep your toys organized for your play but also look stylish? Damon Dark has created several lines of “Dungeon Bags” with a place for everything you need for your kinky play. He shows off several in this clip, including the “Elite” and the “Marquis”, and invites you to customize your own [...]
Dan and Dawn continue their series on how to make a Master/slave relationship work with some lessons learned from classic personal development principles: Think it, say it, write it, do it! They talk about how important it is to take the time to identify your wants, needs, and desires, then figure out how they can [...]
Now that choosing the harness is covered, Qtip goes over the various factors that go into the choice of cock. These include things like size, material, and also practical aspects like how it fits in the harness and how it will move with your body, your partner’s body, lube, and more.
Very few things can communicate “let’s do something kinky” better than a shiny pair of handcuffs dangling from a finger combined with a provocative look in your lovers eye. Maybe it’s because they actually are used by law enforcement, or maybe it’s the smooth glittering chrome finish, or maybe it’s the combination of the clink [...]
This presentation by Dulcinea Pitagora, M.A. and Annalise Ophelian, Psy.D., was recorded in audio form only. The presenters were kind enough to share their images so that the following slideshow could be presented. To note the bibliography & references, use the pause button.
Whips, Chains, & Change: A Third Sexual Revolution
Still not sure if you want to be part of the public kink community? Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, authors of “Playing Well with Others”, have a bunch of reasons why you should. From voyeurism to education to lifelong relationships, the kink community can enrich your own personal kink experience in more ways than you [...]
Presentation of “Community of Consent: Language, Norm, & Signaling Membership in the BDSM Community” Part 1: Part 2:
In these videos, Megan Lieff presents a recent history of the narratives of sexual assault in the BDSM community. Part 1: [/private] Part 2: You can find a copy of the slides here and please check out the presenters website snarksy.com
Mike Parsons presents his dissertation on the Link between Dominant and Submissive Sexual Behaviors and the Personality Traits: Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism, Openness and Agreableness.
JP Robichaud, a rope top for the popular Keyhole Sessions in Toronto, and Graydancer talk about the kinds of questions you ask before beginning a rope scene. These cover pragmatic aspects such as physical condition, but both Gray and JP stress the importance of connecting with the bottom as a person. More to come in [...]