“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will […]
In this extended clip Mistrix shows how the careful application of leads can make the electrical current from a TENS unit flow through the prostate for a truly sensational experience. She also applies pads to the cock and balls themselves, then slowly works with the box controls to get exactly the reaction from her bottom […]
Nayland finishes up the series with some advice on what to expect after a scene. He recommends several techniques for communicating both with each other and with your wider support network, because this kind of psychological play can hit people in surprising ways and at unexpected times. This text is available for purchase but you […]
Danarama goes into more detail about the underhanded tricks tops can use for interrogation play. Ranging from simple conversational techniques designed to gain information to elaborate “prisoner’s dilemma” scenarios, this is a great guide for enjoying this kind of consensual role play.
In my experience there can be a great deal of guilt on both sides of the D/s dynamic, regardless of gender. So I’m going to do a series of articles about some of the struggles and solutions from each perspective. I presented one of my favorite ‘conceptual’ classes at Ramabo College, D/s as a Feminist […]
Alex Bettencourt uses this clip to remind the service provider that it is just as important to manage themselves as it is the household. Aside from self-care suggestions, Alex also gives several great resources for the manager to become more effective which you can see in the comment below.
Reid Mihalko discusses New Relationship Energy (NRE) during this four-minute video. He reflects on NRE from the vantage points of those who are falling in love and also of those who are witnessing others fall in love. Reid covers brain chemistry, emotions, communication and more as he offers various tips for all persons touched by […]
Mistress Servalan continues to extol the erotic qualities of leather gloves in this clip, showing how the process of fitting them on and slowly taking them off can be a treat in itself. She also shows an entirely different kind of glove, the tactical glove used by police and the military, which gives another distinct […]
Evoë Thorne and Harold Henry love playing with his balls. In this clip, before starting some good old fashioned cock-and-ball-torture, they show you three ways to use nylons to turn the testicles into a pretty package. You learn a basic tie, then a “figure 8,” and a “ball-stretcher” along with some other fun tips. This […]
Lucky Albatross explains how aftercare helps you return to a “normal” state after an extreme scene. She also explores some specific techniques – the “ABC’s” – including cuddles and carbs that can help you recover and be ready to play more!
Scotty shows how to ramp things up in a spanking scene in this clip with the enthusiastic bottoming skills of Alex. They demonstrate how both sides improve the connection between spanker and spankee using variations in tempo, pressure, and impact. With all the work of teaching, both his hand and her ass are quite red, and […]
In the conclusion to this thorough overview of interrogation play Danarama talks about the end-game. “Cooling the mark”, or aftercare, is about taking the person back from the brink of danger and personal failure and making them feel good about the experience. In some cases, he explains, both top and bottom may feel they have […]
Everyone has to start somewhere. Even if we have a naturally dominant nature, putting that to use in a D/s context can have its challenges. There are a lot of novels & fantasy stories about how ‘easily’ it all comes when someone is a “true dominant”, but this isn’t any more accurate than saying how […]
Topologist clearly lays out his “Somerville Bowline” single-column cuff, a non-constrictive and non-collapsing knot great for wrists, ankles, and more. He also covers the common mistakes people make when first learning the cuff and shows how to avoid them while adding this tie to your rope bondage toolbox. This text is available for purchase but […]
Murphy Blue continues to explain how the places and styles of applying even simple bondage harnesses can profoundly change the tenor of a scene. Are you going for the secure feeling of a hug, or the rough feeling of a capture? It’s not as much what you do as how you do it, and Murphy demonstrates the finer […]