In this clip Shay & Stefanos bring up some ways that you can improve your playing ability by learning to give and read nonverbal and verbal cues in a scene. By phrasing requests in a certain way, or using their body language to communicate both consent and pleasure, submissives can contribute to the dynamic of [...]
Once you’ve taken everything under consideration into consideration, how to you go about making it happen and “closing the deal” with your chosen dominant? Mollena Williams helps you examine the difference between giving up everything and gaining everything you want, sometimes even when they’re happening at the same time! Consent, negotiation, self-identity, and awareness are all [...]
It’s not unheard of to check on the references of a dominant under consideration – in fact, Mollena argues, it’s a pretty good idea. She talks about what kinds of questions to ask, both of the dominant and of the people that they recommend. Failing that, there’s always the old fashioned idea of “dating” – [...]
Stefanos and Shay pack this super-size clip with tips that can help a submissive (and by extension, the dominant) ask the right questions and set the right limits during negotiation to have a fantastic scene. They discuss common strategies that work and common mistakes that don’t, and as a special treat you get to hear [...]
Scotty and Annie talk about role-playing the fantasy of “consensual nonconsent” in this clip, focusing on the most important tool for that kind of play: the safeword. That is a word used to let the other person know either that things are not ok, that they are ok, or both. Whether it’s some strange word [...]
Shay and Stefanos model an appropriate way to meet people at events, parties, and munches with a kink theme. They explain clearly how not to overstep boundaries while still letting the other person know whether or not you’re interested in play. Stefanos also talks about the useful skill of “peacocking” to help you meet people.
Shyness is not only a factor of being around strange people – letting people you know that you’re kinky can be incredibly scary. Mollena talks about different strategies for letting those close to you know about your authentic desires without risking blowback. She also talks about how important it can be to make sure you [...]
Mollena has some specific advice about tact and feedback for the big-letter types in D/s relationships. While she acknowledges that they have the ability and consent from the submissive to be as cruel as they like, she suggests that a little positive reinforcement and personal acknowledgement can go a long way towards sustaining and nourishing [...]
Dan & Dawn Williams introduce the foundations of Master/slave (M/s) relationships during this four-minute video. Among other things, they define key terms, underscore consent, and discuss gender, personality, and decision-making. Dan & Dawn share their insights on many aspects of M/s relationships during their upcoming clips.
Lucky Albatross knows that you can’t always be sure that your partner can provide the aftercare you need, so this clip explains how to bring your own necessities with you. She covers the gamut of the “carbs & cuddles” type of aftercare supplies and also warns about some of the things you might not want to do [...]