In this continuation of Graydancer’s “Tie ‘Em Up & Fuck ‘Em” series he talks less about what to tie and more about how. Using the lovely Raven Lightholme and a box tie for a demonstration, Gray shows several methods for tying any bondage that can help up the hotness and increase the connection between you [...]
In the final segment of this series Graydancer puts all four ladder-ties to work securing Anastasia Pierce from head-to-toe. The tie itself is simple, but Gray also covers the safety and comfort concerns. In the end, Anastasia treats everyone to proof that the tie won’t get in the way of play! This text is available [...]
JP and Gray tackle one of the stickiest parts of rope negotiation in this clip: sex. What exactly defines sexual contact? How do you deal with unexpected sexual energy in a scene? Drawing from their personal experiences, these two rope tops continue their discussion of the knotty questions of rope scenes.
In this first clip of a multi-part series, JP Robichaud (Ropenspace facilitator and rigger for the Keyhole Sessions in Toronto) and Graydancer talk about some of the finer points of negotiation, and how to work through common misunderstandings. This clip describes a technique developed by Jim Duvall (Seattle kink educator) for making sure all medical [...]
Graydancer and J.P. Robichaud move into the final segments of their rope negotiation series by talking about what the top needs. It’s rare that a rigger is asked “What do you want to get out of a scene?” but that is just as important as the bottom’s desires. They talk about ways to figure out [...]
JP Robichaud, a rope top for the popular Keyhole Sessions in Toronto, and Graydancer talk about the kinds of questions you ask before beginning a rope scene. These cover pragmatic aspects such as physical condition, but both Gray and JP stress the importance of connecting with the bottom as a person. More to come in [...]
Continuing his series on 2Play, the Art of Making Out, GrayDancer turns to the art of Handholding. Everyone knows the power of a good handshake in business and social arenas. Well, handholding can be used just as powerfully with your 2Playmate. In Under 5 minutes, GrayDancer shares some tips and tricks on everything from communication [...]
Gray and JP conclude their discussion about what it means when you separate the means by which you do rope bondage from the finished result. Challenging riggers to examine what their personal relationship with their art is, they end with some ideas of how to add more meaning to your bondage experience.
As the discussion about the theory of rope bondage scenes continues, Gray and JP begin to talk about creative constraints. What happens if the top only gets three pieces of rope? What if there’s no rope at all? What kind of energetic connection comes out of you when your “topping talismans” are taken away?
In the conclusion of this group discussion, Princess Kali, Mollena Williams, and Graydancer talk about the idea of a “safe space” for both the dominant and submissive partner. This provides a relationship environment where mistakes can be made, learned from, and used to make the relationship stronger. “This is real life, not porn!” Kali emphasizes, [...]
Princess Kali, Mollena Williams, and Graydancer continue their discussion of what role vulnerability has in D/s relationships with this clip. Gray poses the question of the difference between being valued for what you do vs. who you are, and Mollena and Kali take up the challenge with some ways that both can help strengthen a [...]
GrayDancer continues his Full Contact Dom series with more kicking and trampling during this six-minute, part-two video. He starts with some light tapping, trampling, and kicking of Ten, while she lies on her back. He then moves on to some pussy kicking. Gray comments on a host of related topics: safety, psychology, intensity, motivation, weight [...]