In this clip Wintersong talks about finding the positive aspects of playing with a disability. While the focus is on the more kinky aspects of sexuality, it’s easy to extrapolate to the simple act of sex. For example, a person with fibromyalgia was able to enjoy the heightened sensitivity, and another with an artificial limb [...]
Sinclair Sexsmith loves creating protocols for both dominants and submissives. All too often, though, the partners in a D/s relationship try to adopt the protocols they think they should follow rather than discovering the ones that actually turn them on. Sinclair gives some guidelines and ideas for how to come up with the protocols that [...]
Now that she’s laid out the parameters of race play, Mollena Williams wants to talk to you about negotiating this type of scene. First and foremost, she says, the negotiation has to be with yourself, before you ever get in touch with a potential partner. She explains how to go about developing that kind of [...]
Mollena Williams dares to explore one of the most dark and controversial kinks in this series: playing with fantasies of race and ethnic inequality. She begins by clarifying what race play is and what it isn’t. She invites you to think about why exactly you’re wanting to do this kind of scene, and what you [...]
In a previous clip Wintersong talked about various questions for a partner to ask a potential playmate with a disability. But what should the person with the disability be prepared to discuss? This clip covers how to address some of the specifics as well as how to interpret the answers that you might get.
Kitty Stryker has already talked extensively about how not to talk to your partner about kink. But how about some positive suggestions? This long clip tells you many ways to express your fantasies and curiosity to your partner, both in theoretical and concrete terms. Between the two clips your communication skills for kink can really [...]
Mollena William talks about how setting up an online persona can help you overcome your shyness towards the kink community. You have control of your persona as well as how much you interact with the people online, and that can be an effective way to deal with social anxiety. She also recommends having a buddy [...]
It’s not unheard of to check on the references of a dominant under consideration – in fact, Mollena argues, it’s a pretty good idea. She talks about what kinds of questions to ask, both of the dominant and of the people that they recommend. Failing that, there’s always the old fashioned idea of “dating” – [...]
One of the many forms of communication Kitty Stryker teaches is the way to broach the subject of kink with your partner. In this clip she talks about some of the mistakes and missteps people make when they first start to bring up the subject of their less-traditional fantasies. Avoid them, and you can be [...]
Penny Barber introduces lactation play during this eight-minute video. She notes the various motivations for breast milk play, observes the consistency and taste of breast milk, highlights important safety concerns for such play, and then describes ways to induce lactation. Penny continues her series on breast milk play in some upcoming clips.
Shay and Stefanos model an appropriate way to meet people at events, parties, and munches with a kink theme. They explain clearly how not to overstep boundaries while still letting the other person know whether or not you’re interested in play. Stefanos also talks about the useful skill of “peacocking” to help you meet people.
Shyness is not only a factor of being around strange people – letting people you know that you’re kinky can be incredibly scary. Mollena talks about different strategies for letting those close to you know about your authentic desires without risking blowback. She also talks about how important it can be to make sure you [...]
Still not sure if you want to be part of the public kink community? Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, authors of “Playing Well with Others”, have a bunch of reasons why you should. From voyeurism to education to lifelong relationships, the kink community can enrich your own personal kink experience in more ways than you [...]
Mollena finishes her series on monogamy without shame with an honest evaluation of the good and the bad parts of being monogamous in a kinky world. She emphasizes that holding on to your boundaries and never giving up on what you really want is an important part of being happy with both. This text is [...]