JP and Gray tackle one of the stickiest parts of rope negotiation in this clip: sex. What exactly defines sexual contact? How do you deal with unexpected sexual energy in a scene? Drawing from their personal experiences, these two rope tops continue their discussion of the knotty questions of rope scenes.
Kitty Stryker has already talked extensively about how not to talk to your partner about kink. But how about some positive suggestions? This long clip tells you many ways to express your fantasies and curiosity to your partner, both in theoretical and concrete terms. Between the two clips your communication skills for kink can really [...]
Danarama continues his series on rough sex during this four-minute video. He discusses creative and multi-purpose ways to incorporate fingernail scratching and spitting into your sexual play. Danarama also covers negotiation, marks, positions, techniques, and more. Stay tuned for additional rough sex clips as well.
In this first clip of a multi-part series, JP Robichaud (Ropenspace facilitator and rigger for the Keyhole Sessions in Toronto) and Graydancer talk about some of the finer points of negotiation, and how to work through common misunderstandings. This clip describes a technique developed by Jim Duvall (Seattle kink educator) for making sure all medical [...]
In part 2, Mollena goes over some of the issues that can come up when you are working within a consensual nonconsent framework, and how to deal with them. One of the biggest is figuring out how to end a scene and deal with the many emotions that may be left over. Having a framework [...]
While it may sound like an oxymoron at first, “consensual nonconsent” is actually a way for people to create a safe space to explore edgy areas of play and their own psyche. Mollena lays out what the attraction is, what the dangers are, and starts to explain how to set up your own scenes in [...]
While the previous clip talked about most of the supplies required for needleplay, gloves are important enough that they deserve special attention. In this short clip Shay explains various kinds of gloves both in terms of size and material, as well as going over best practices to keep things safe and also how to eroticize [...]
There’s more to putting in a ball gag than just grabbing one and opening wide. Miss Simone explains the process from initial selection through the final buckle in this series. Part one is all about what kind of ball gag is right for your submissive, taking their experience, gender, and other factors into consideration.
Selina Minx explains how the way you choose to negotiate can change the way that your wants and needs are fulfilled. She recommends a combination of specific details combined with general wishes, so that you can be sure to both maintain boundaries and also get the chance to use your imagination and spontaneity.
Gathering the supplies is one thing; how you lay them out before a scene can be the difference between smooth and hot play or dangerous fumbling. Stefanos and Shay show you their own method for laying out a play piercing set and explain why they like it that way. While your own preferences may be [...]
Graydancer and J.P. Robichaud move into the final segments of their rope negotiation series by talking about what the top needs. It’s rare that a rigger is asked “What do you want to get out of a scene?” but that is just as important as the bottom’s desires. They talk about ways to figure out [...]
What do you need to have a play piercing scene that is both fun and safe? Stefanos and Shay show you what they prefer, go over some other options, and make sure you think things through from start to finish. Shay also covers a few techniques for avoiding cross-contamination and Stefanos explains why not everything [...]