Here’s some great ideas for creating power exchange protocols that are “sexy for sexy’s sake”, according to Sinclair Sexsmith. They aren’t just for the dominant partners – Sinclair explains how even a single submissive could use these suggestions to make things hot. The suggestions are specific, graphic, and intensely sexual to get your D/s juices [...]
Can you be a feminist and still be in a BDSM power exchange? Lilith Grey explains the difference between the paradigm of patriarchal power as opposed to a healthy relationship within the roles of dominant and submissive. It’s all about informed consent and the motivations for exercising the power, and this clip can help clear [...]
Sinclair Sexsmith loves creating protocols for both dominants and submissives. All too often, though, the partners in a D/s relationship try to adopt the protocols they think they should follow rather than discovering the ones that actually turn them on. Sinclair gives some guidelines and ideas for how to come up with the protocols that [...]
Stefanos and Shay share in this clip how they handle their power exchange relationship in various environments. This includes both “toning it down” in public and also ramping it up in private, with subtle cues for each other to communicate the desire for a stronger sense of protocol wherever they are.
What if you’ve never been tied up before? How do you bring up the idea at all with your partner, and how do the both of you learn to get comfortable with the fantasy? In this clip Stefanos and Shay take it back to the beginning, explaining how communication and mutual exploration can help make [...]
In this clip Mollena gives a few specific tips for the subs in power exchange relationships. She talks about how important it is to not keep troubles and stresses bottled up – even when it’s scary to honestly communicate. Mollena describes a few scenarios for using tact and self-awareness to help improve the flow of [...]
Dan and Dawn Williams finish off their series on M/s relationships with the simple advice: Do It! Live the life you fantasize about! They also offer more practical advice on how to maintain it, such as where to find support in the form of peers, mentors, and role models. Dan emphasizes again how ritual can [...]
In this clip Shay & Stefanos bring up some ways that you can improve your playing ability by learning to give and read nonverbal and verbal cues in a scene. By phrasing requests in a certain way, or using their body language to communicate both consent and pleasure, submissives can contribute to the dynamic of [...]
Stefanos and Shay pack this super-size clip with tips that can help a submissive (and by extension, the dominant) ask the right questions and set the right limits during negotiation to have a fantastic scene. They discuss common strategies that work and common mistakes that don’t, and as a special treat you get to hear [...]
Penny Barber introduces lactation play during this eight-minute video. She notes the various motivations for breast milk play, observes the consistency and taste of breast milk, highlights important safety concerns for such play, and then describes ways to induce lactation. Penny continues her series on breast milk play in some upcoming clips.
Mollena talks about another aspect of smoother D/s relationships: dealing with conflicts. She explains how it is possible to work through issues even from within the D/s dynamic itself, keeping in mind that both sides are human beings first and their roles second. This text is available for purchase but you need to login or [...]
Dan and Dawn continue their series on how to make a Master/slave relationship work with some lessons learned from classic personal development principles: Think it, say it, write it, do it! They talk about how important it is to take the time to identify your wants, needs, and desires, then figure out how they can [...]
Mollena has some specific advice about tact and feedback for the big-letter types in D/s relationships. While she acknowledges that they have the ability and consent from the submissive to be as cruel as they like, she suggests that a little positive reinforcement and personal acknowledgement can go a long way towards sustaining and nourishing [...]