Selina Minx realizes that in the heat of the moment it can be hard to express your boundaries or limits. Sometimes it’s desire, sometimes it’s embarrassment, sometimes it’s just momentum. Her solution is: rehearsal! Practice in front of the mirror, in the car, wherever you can, saying all the phrases that seem a little awkward. [...]
One of the many forms of communication Kitty Stryker teaches is the way to broach the subject of kink with your partner. In this clip she talks about some of the mistakes and missteps people make when they first start to bring up the subject of their less-traditional fantasies. Avoid them, and you can be [...]
If your kink involves rough body play – punching, kicking, or other kinds of “deep impact” – you can end up with some pretty impressive bruises. Shay and Stefanos break down what’s actually happening there with your body, including what are myths and what are legitimate concerns. Shay also recommends some treatment for bruising, but [...]
In this segment of his series on Energetic Sex, Reid Mihalko goes into greater detail on the sanskrit-rooted vocabulary most commonly used to describe energetic sex. With a healthy dose of humor and skepticism, Reid will take you through terms such as “Kundalini,” or life energy (sometimes represented by a coiled snake asleep at the [...]
In this short clip we hear from Deanna (“Cannonball”) as she gives an experienced perspective of what it’s like to be suspended like this. She talks about relative comfort and possibilities, and Stefano chimes in to cover a few more safety issues. They also agree that the pulley system worked wonderfully!
Dr. Charlie Glickman has three magic words for you: Relaxation, Lubrication, and Communication. Watch this clip to learn how these three things can lead to fantastic anal sex for you and your partner. Charlie outlines techniques, makes recommendations of products, and explains why it’s worth it to explore this erotic activity.
Mollena Williams continues to give ideas for finding the right Yang to your Yin with this clip. She talks about the importance of knowing what you want and then screening the people you are considering relationships with, almost as if you were hiring them for a job. Background checks, observation, and gut instinct are all [...]
Kitty Stryker continues her reflections on verbal consent during this six-minute video. She suggests creative and supportive ways to have important conversations about such topics as safer sex and past sexual experience. Kitty also recommends fun ways to share desires and fantasies. There’s even more fun and sexy tips in her upcoming clips.
Mollena covers what may be the most important part of figuring out your kink identity: why do you want this? Knowing what it is about BDSM that turns you on empowers you to fulfill those wants and needs and fulfill those of your partner. Mollena gives some ways to figure it out for yourself and [...]
Dr. Robert Dunlap continues his discussion on fetishes during this three-minute video. He outlines how a fetish develops from a psychological vantage point. He discusses the complexity of the multi-layered development, the impact of denial, the desire for connection, and more. Dr. Dunlap reflects on many kinky topics in future clips.
Kitty Stryker discusses important considerations about sex and trauma during this five-minute video. She offers insights for both parties in a relationship: explaining triggers, noting responses and feelings, being aware of expectations, confirming consent, and identifying building blocks and resources for a healthier and freer sexual experience in relationships.
Reid Mihalko discusses receptive sex for men during this four-minute video. He shares some of his personal story to encourage healthy, empowered, and safe sexual exploration. Reid comments on likes/dislikes, pleasure, fun, masculinity, and how such things are related to sexual identity and orientation.
Orpheus Black continues his series on scene dynamics during this four-minute video. He highlights the importance of clearly communicating your desires and then discusses concrete ways to establish rapport with your play partner(s). In the next segment he demonstrates how to establish rapport during a scene.
In this clip Selina Minx explains why negotiating within power exchange relationships can make it difficult to be honest with your partner. She outlines both the reasons and the necessity for being able to clearly express your boundaries and needs when negotiating, then touches on a few strategies to try. This is the first in [...]