”Unconventional communication for unconventional relationships,” is a mantra Julian Wolf uses when teaching. What is an unconventional relationship? Certainly different kinds of power exchange could be considered unconventional. What happens when you try to also have a conventional relationship with the same person? Is it possible for your Master to also be your boyfriend? For your leather daddy to be your wife? For many kinksters that is a great fantasy to which they aspire, but the reality can get a lot more complicated. As is usual in relationships, communicating your expectations clearly is the key to making it work. Julian […]
It’s easy to think of the sexy ways that you can do power exchange within a scene. Enjoying that kind of play in the bedroom in the context of “Fuck me harder, sir!” and “Bow to your mistress, slave!” is so common that it’s almost a cliché. What happens when the power exchange moves beyond the bedroom? Is it possible, or ethical, to extend that kind of relationship outside into the rest of the world? There are definite concerns about consent when dominant and submissive behavior happens where other people can see it. It can change not only the way […]
Marcia B. continues her discussion on non-monogamy during this four-minute, part-two video. In addition to encouraging you to identify the benefits and challenges of non-monogamy for you; she notes a host of motivations for open relationships so that you can better understand your desires and reasons for non-monogamy. Also in Non-Monogamy Dating for Non-Traditional Relationships: Offline Dating for Non-Traditional Relationships: Online What Kind of Non-Monogamy is for You? – Part 1 What Kind of Non-Monogamy is for You? – Part 2 View the entire series
Most of us think we know what we’re talking about when it comes to monogamy, even though, from person to person and culture to culture, “monogamous” can mean something very different. That’s why Marcia B. begins her series on non-monogamy with a five-minute video on four types of monogamy: Sexual Monogamy, Emotional Monogamy, Social Monogamy, and Activity Monogamy. Food for thought when thinking about what kind of non-monogamy is right for you! Also in Non-Monogamy Dating for Non-Traditional Relationships: Offline Dating for Non-Traditional Relationships: Online What Kind of Non-Monogamy is for You? – Part 1 What Kind of Non-Monogamy is […]
Anita Wagner addresses the issue of unhealthy sexual compulsion in this clip from a very personal perspective. She explains how the sex-positive community can sometimes resist the idea of “sexual addiction” simply because it is interpreted as shaming or sex-negative. The reality, she explains, is a very real issue that can damage relationships, communities, and more. Anita also asks community leaders to take the opportunity to become more aware of this issue and share it with their groups.
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion. Also in Shadow Side of Eros The Shadow Side of Eros: Sex Addiction/Compulsion – Part 1 The Shadow Side of Eros: Sex Addiction/Compulsion – Part 2 The Shadow Side of Eros: Sex Addiction/Compulsion – Part 3 The Shadow Side of Eros: Sex Addiction/Compulsion – Part 4 View the entire series