It’s really not fair. Once you’ve managed to break through all the cultural stereotypes and expectations and realize that, “Yes, I AM KINKY!” you steel yourself to go to that munch, that party, that kink event. Then you get there, and realize… “I don’t actually know what these people are into.” There are a few ways to get hints, of course. The hanky code, used by gay leather men for decades, has been adopted by many in the larger kink community. Left pocket means to, and right pocket means bottom. Colors mean a lot of things. But even if you […]