I wouldn’t say that I’m new to kink. I may only be 25 but ever since I’ve been sexually active (oh how I love that phrase!), I’ve been kinky. From being tied to the bed with charity shop ties to scratching my arms, playing dress up to being spanked over his knee, I’ve never just been interested in vanilla sex. Don’t get me wrong, I love vanilla sex, especially on lazy Sunday mornings but I also love things a bit dirtier, a bit rougher, a bit kinky.
Obviously, I’ve grown as a person over those years and, in all aspects of my life, my tastes have changed. I’ve changed a lot, having gone through some major events and lived in many different places. I ignored the kinky aspect of my personality when I decided I wanted to teach (and subsequently didn’t) and then I moved in with my parents whilst renovating a house (that just messed up my sex life entirely). I also spent a lot of time on anti-depressants and, since coming off them, I think they may have had some effect on my libido. A lot of things happened at once to reawaken me to kink; moving into our own house, quitting the anti-depressants, going to munches, meeting S…I felt like I was getting to live again.
Talking to people, negotiating with a new partner and joining sites such as Fetlife all had be thinking about what my kinks are. What do I want? What am I interested in? What really turns me off? I like to think that I’m quite open to new experiences and will very rarely say no to something without giving it a go first (this is another way that I’ve changed over the years). I think what’s surprised me most about this is that I assumed that I would just go back to what I enjoyed before, that my pain threshold would be similar, that it wouldn’t take much thought. The fact is, I really have changed a lot. I’m drawn to different aspects of kink and I’m very into exploring this further. If I just assume that what I’ve already experienced is all I’m interested in, who knows what I might be missing? And what’s the worst that could happen? I might not like it and we have to backtrack a little.
And so I’m looking for inspiration and that’s where Kink Academy comes in. There’s loads of videos on here talking about fetishes that I have little experience of. Some I watch and think that it’s not something I want to look into (Pet Play), others having me squirming in my seat from anticipation (Punching) and some scare the life out of me (Dragon Tails). I’m lucky to have two people in my life to explore these things with, especially if it’s when they’re co-topping. There’s more support and they can both read me in different ways.
I can see that I’ll be exploring kink for the rest of my life. People change and I know from experience that the thing that was a hard limit one day can be something I’m more than interested to bring into my play the next.
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