Ava Amnesia begins her brief series on the spectrum of submission during this eight-minute video. She starts with an important disclaimer and then discusses the range of meaning of some of the most common terms related to submission: bottom, submissive, slave, etc. Ava also offers insights on desire, communication, and more. She continues reflecting on submission in her next clip.
Also in The Spectrum of Submission
- The Spectrum of Submission: Identity & Labels
- The Spectrum of Submission: Negotiation
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This is a really good video to help people who may be struggling with labels or those who are quite set in their way as to what difference terms mean.
For me, I identify as a bottom with switchy tendencies, but I am also a submissive to my girlfriend (but not other partners)
Thank you so much for contributing, Alyss Abyss! I think it’s really awesome to hear the labels people have found that work for them. Would you mind sharing for future readers how you came to identify with those labels?
-Ava
I’d agree that switches can be submissive per the end of the video. I know several people who classify themselves as switches who are entirely submissive to one person during that relationship, who in several cases also have a partner (Woot Poly!) who they are dominate only with. Because they enjoy the play from either perspective they call themselves a switch, but they are not switching with one partner. Works great for them and these labels are obviously dynamic.
Hi there, nothrin! Sorry for the delay in my response :)
I totally agree with your statement that people experience those sorts of relationships, as I certainly do. I’m curious if you (or anyone else out there in the internet) think that switches can be submissive in a relationship that they switch in. So instead of a relationship based dynamic of submission, perhaps it’s more scene or time oriented?
Does that make sense? Thanks so much for watching :)
-Ava
Thank you for this. I really appreciate your mention of the difference between behavior and preference – as in “I may behave submissively, but that doesn’t mean I like pain”. Here here to more people asking questions about what our shorthanded labels actually mean to us!