Here, I present to you a long list of ways to have kinkier sex. It is not by any stretch of the imagination the only ways. Some options may be obvious for some people, but inspiring for others!
- Leave the lights on
- Learn about what kind of kinky fun youâre interested in
- Enjoy a nice dinner, a glass of wine perhaps and negotiate what you both want to experience
- Decide on a âsafewordâ that either of you can use to put a halt on the kinky play if you need to.
- Read erotica while your partner rubs your feet. Take your time with your favorite sexy scenes
- Look directly into each others eyes as you ravish each other
- Push your partner up against a wall for a deep passionate kiss
- Use a blind-fold with your regular activities
- Use a blind-fold & explore other heightened senses
- âGive Upâ control to your partner and be their âsex slaveâ for the night
- âTakeâ control of your partner and use sexy, sensual and kinky commands to direct the action
- Hold your partners hands above their head firmly while youâre in the missionary position
- If you usually keep quiet during sex, then let those sounds out! Usually loud? Try keeping quiet.
- Grab your partnerâs hair firmly at the nape of their neck and pull them into a passionate kiss.
- Explore a friendly sex toy shop online & pick out a fun sex toy, ben-wa balls are pretty popular!
- Use a silk tie to gently tie your partners hands to each other, so she can still move them around
- Use a silk tie to gently tie your partnersâ hands to the bed, thereâs no getting away now!
- Role-play a classic power dynamic: doctor/patient, boss/employee ,
- She can dress up in silk stockings and a black lace nighty. Donât forget the high heels!
- Explore body parts other than the âexpectedâ sexual organs. Feet, hands, legs, necks are all just as yummy!
- A light spanking can be super-hot! Make sure you keep the sexy smacks on the fleshy part of their ass.
- Using the pads of your fingers, lightly squeeze your partners nipples until you hear a soft, sexy gasp
- Drip some ice cream on your partners stomach or drip some on your own, with a sensual tongue to clean up
- Buy a leather paddle to take the spanking up a notch, a little goes a long way with spanking!
- In safe public locations, have a make-out session. Know that people might be watching, but you just donât care!
- Kiss your partnerâs body all over, from head to toe. Make the kisses a special kind of sexual worship
- Buy a nice riding crop and have your partner use light slaps on all your naughty bits.
- Lie together naked in the dark & whisper your kinkiest fantasies into each otherâs ears in between kisses
- Practice the âdirtiestâ words that turn you on and use them the next time youâre getting hot & heavy.
- Look around your house for items that you can use on each others bodies to explore new sensations.
- Have a tickle contest! Or gently tie your partner to the bed and tickle them until they beg for mercy
- Using a cock-ring will help him stay harder than usual & stay harder longer!
- Lie next to each other or facing each other and masturbate so you watch each other.
- When youâre out at dinner, she can take her panties off and subtly put them in his pocket.
- Try âsensory deprivationâ with a blindfold & a pair of ear-buds in your partners ears playing sexy music
- Enjoy a little oral lovingâŚtake your time to pleasure your partner luxuriously.
- Ready to take your bondage to the next level? Buy a pair of hand-cuffs & keep the key handy!
- A consensual âstruggleâ means you try to âget awayâ even though you want to get caught!
- Try an exhibitionist/voyeur scene â she can strip slowly out of lingerie while he watches
- Use a special sex-soy-candle to enjoy particularly âhotâ sex. Make sure you use the right kind of candle to avoid un-wanted burns!
- Now for a little cold play! He can softly ease ice cubes into her hot parts and lick until the ice cubes melt
- Go to a bar or restaurant and âpick upâ your partner, pretending to be strangers. Get a hotel room to help it feel more scandalous.
- High heels can be an excellent sexual accessory! She can leave them on while being taken from behind
- Try out different styles of dominance: cold & distant, sensual & teasing, tough & rough.
- Pick something that youâll like to get âpunishedâ for (eye rolls anyone?!) and let your partner âteach you a lessonâ
- A flogger is another classic kinky toy. Make sure you learn how to use it though, itâs only fun until someone puts out an eye!
- Digital photos can be another fun way to explore exhibitionism & voyeurism. Take as many as you want & keep them in a âsecretâ folder, or for even more privacy, enjoy the photo shoot then hit that delete button!
- Using her hand, she can wrap her hand around his cock & balls to create a cock-ring, and gentle pressure usually feels really good for him.
- Nipple clips are another sexy, kinky addition to your bedroom play. But keep it light until youâre both comfortable with more intense sensations.
- Â Try a new position! If you’re used to doing it in the missionary position mix it up, try doggie style, spooning, sitting on a chair, woman on top…the options are almost endless!
Written by Princess Kali – originally posted on CoachingByKali.com