On Friday I was lucky enough to get to both wield and have my ass reddened by our newest toy addition: a super short and faily thick acrylic cane that Onyx and I picked up while we were in Portland last month. Aside from the love I would regularly have for a purple acrylic cane part of the reason I suggested to Onyx that we buy it was because I had recently watched the Stingy vs. Thuddy video.
I’ve loved canes for as long as I’ve loved impact play, especially the thicker ones. The thing I hear most about canes is this misguided notion that canes are all extremely painful, but in reality they can elicit a wide range of sensations. While I knew most of the information in the Stingy vs. Thuddy video it had never been laid out for me that same way, so it was extremely useful, and it’s information I’ve relayed to friends since watching. I started rating the canes we have: thuddy, thuddy with a stingy finish, and stingy with a thuddy finish (I love making kink toys sound similar to a fine wine and it works so well!). We used to have a wicked stingy thin one too, but one day it snapped at the handle while in mid-use! Somehow I didn’t mind.
I really like thud. That’s not to say I don’t like sting, because I do, but I generally can take a lot more thuddy than I can stingy. Really, though, I like it all. In fact, if that is not my motto I don’t know what is. When presented with multiple options I generally have a difficult time choosing because I want all of them. Go ahead and call me greedy, I don’t mind.
After getting the cane I wanted to watch the Introduction to Caning and Introduction to Caning – Part 2 to discover what sorts of tricks and tips Princess Kali would suggest. Since they were introduction videos I wasn’t sure if the information would be new to me or not, but I was pleasantly surprised. Soon after watching I made Onyx watch the video as well and this was where the Friday fun came in.
Once we watched the video together I ever so graciously offered that he could try out some of the new techniques on me. You know, just so he could practice. I really loved the sound beating he gave me, striking all the right places and giving a good variety of strength and location. Unfortunately, as per usual, I didn’t bruise or have any discomfort once the caning was over, something I always hope will happen but rarely does.
Later that night we went to an intimate queer play party and brought quite a few toys both sexual and kink related. I had the fortune of using the new grip and honing my tapping technique on two lovely women who were there. The smaller purple cane I mentioned earlier works amazingly on breasts, just in case you were wondering. It isn’t quite long enough to sufficiently hit both ass cheeks at once, however, but it was easy to wield with the subject standing and multiple other people crowded around her to give her all sorts of fun birthday sensation play. It was a great night.
The grip shown in the video was completely new to both of us and will take a little bit of getting used to. We both experienced a bit of hand cramping from it, and that will just take a bit of training. It really enhanced the accuracy of the blows and the general control over the cane that we have so a little cramping was worth it. I had been using a tapping technique quite similar to Kali’s, but Onyx sometimes used to be all over the place. Like all of these lessons we both definitely benefited from the experience and will continue to use what we learned for a long time to come.