Under Consideration: Vetting Your Dominant

It’s not unheard of to check on the references of a dominant under consideration – in fact, Mollena argues, it’s a pretty good idea. She talks about what kinds of questions to ask, both of the dominant and of the people that they recommend. Failing that, there’s always the old fashioned idea of “dating” – that is, getting to know someone before jumping into a power exchange relationship with them.