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Proactive vs. Reactive Service

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Alex Bettencourt continues his series on service during this four-minute video. He introduces two types of service, proactive and reactive, by defining each and offering various examples. Alex addresses mistakes, success, communication, feelings, support, expectations, supervision, and more. Stay tuned for reflections on formal and casual service in the next clip.

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Filed Under: Alex Bettencourt, Intermediate Skill, Intermediate Subject, Members Only, Service, Video

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  1. needmoretorque says

    January 4, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    Great video. I’d love to see something on ‘how to teach your submissive to serve.’ Sometimes I struggle to keep my submissive suitably busy when she is serving me.

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    • Gray Dancer says

      January 6, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      The subject of “keeping a submissive busy” is a topic of a lot of discussions in D/s groups I’ve seen. I think that honestly it isn’t your job to keep them busy. There is a lot to be said, in my opinion, for the ability to cultivate patience, to develop the skill of being present and ready to meet the service recipient’s needs or wants without necessarily having to be always doing things.

      However, for some people that doesn’t work, and they use things like “human furniture” or the kinds of household duties that Alex talks about. You can also always give them reading or viewing material (such as Kink Academy) and make it an assignment with results delivered in a form you specify: written report, powerpoint presentation, interpretive dance, whatever suits the two of you. The point is that “service” does not need to mean “keep the provider busy/entertained” all the time.

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