In this clip, Mollena explains why it’s important to understand your reasons for pushing your own boundaries. The short answer is: do it for yourself, not for other people. But there are a lot of variations in how both of those things look. Also, Mollena explains how fear can be both an aphrodisiac and a [...]
In part 2 of his series on better rope skills, Stefano shows several techniques for both creating “frictions” (or “tomenawa”, places where the rope stops and holds) and also for drawing rope around and across itself. He goes in-depth into each part, including explaining various situations where each technique is appropriate.
Scotty demonstrates the power of words spoken in the right tone with this clip. He talks about how a dominant voice is different than the typical “command” voice, since it’s not just compliance you’re looking for – it’s also arousal and fantasy. Annie also tells about how it feels to be spoken to in that [...]
In this clip Stefanos and Shay introduce the idea of NOT-rope bondage – that is, rather than using the traditional nylon and organic ropes and fancy knots, why not use…whatever? Ties, belts, stockings, the possibilities are many, and they also talk a lot about why you might want to use these things to kink up [...]
One of the most iconic representations of kinky play is the riding crop. A supple and yet vicious-looking rod with a wrapped handle at one end and a tiny fold of leather at the other, it may seem a bit strange that it would be loaded with so much meaning in the BDSM world, where [...]
In this information-packed clip Dov draws on his expertise with whips to clearly explain how to hit what you’re throwing at. He dispels myths that you may have heard about where to focus your attention, and then gets into the hard physics and body mechanics of throwing your whip.
Miss Simone finishes out her extensive series on handcuffs by talking about their counterpart: leg irons. She shows how similar principles apply in some ways, and also how some aspects of these bondage toys are completely unique. Simone also describes several ways that leg irons can be used in play, and the safety concerns for [...]
Dan and Dawn Williams finish off their series on M/s relationships with the simple advice: Do It! Live the life you fantasize about! They also offer more practical advice on how to maintain it, such as where to find support in the form of peers, mentors, and role models. Dan emphasizes again how ritual can [...]
In part 2 Murphy goes over some more aspects of evaluating your hard point and frame. Then he brings in the “soft ingredients”: his two models. They discuss their physical condition as well as the psychological parts of the suspension to come. Finally Murphy cautions you that this is NOT meant to replace in-person rope [...]
Danarama shows how the simple “doggy style” position can be “roughed up” into what he calls “the Kitty”. It’s a face-down ass-up position that offers many ways to enjoy the roughness of fucking in a safe and consensual way.
Now that Stormmy has explained several different techniques of flogging with the help of his slave Miranda, she speaks up to give her side of the equation. She gives some tips for making the flogging better by improving the “target areas” of the body, as well as some extra tips for nonverbal communication especially useful [...]
After a lot of negotiation and talking about the theory of sense dep play, Shae Flanigan finally starts the process in this clip. She demonstrates how to put someone into a neoprene zipper-and-lace body bag, including arm sleeves, tips on zipping, and even some playful tips to make it more fun for both top and [...]
In the first episode of this four-part series, Mollena Williams discusses the idea of hard and soft limits and when you might want to push them. It’s certainly useful to maintain your boundaries, of course, but sometimes that thing you fear is also what excites you, and that’s where Mollena thinks you need to give [...]
There’s an old joke in the BDSM community: “What’s the worst thing you’ll ever hear a dominant say?” “Oops!” Chuckles aside, there is a myth in the kink world of the “all-powerful” dominant, who is completely in control of the environment, their body, their bottom’s body, supremely aware of all the many factors involved in [...]
Stefano “BirdofPrey” LaForgia reveals some shibari secrets in these two clips – or, at least, some of his favorite tips for improving the speed of your tying and the flow of the rope through your hands. He gives very practical advice and demonstrates each one in multiple ways on Deanna, showing how the standard box [...]