Another part of dealing with shyness is getting past the perfectly natural fear of possible consequences. What if I’m rejected? What if I’m weird? What if I don’t like it? What if I like it too much? Mollena talks about how to face these kinds of fears and keep them from preventing your happy kinky [...]
Graydancer and J.P. Robichaud move into the final segments of their rope negotiation series by talking about what the top needs. It’s rare that a rigger is asked “What do you want to get out of a scene?” but that is just as important as the bottom’s desires. They talk about ways to figure out [...]
Lucky Albatross talks about the different reasons people have for performing service in a play environment. She explains many examples including efficiency, acknowledgement, and even sexual satisfaction. Lucky also details how the different motivations can necessitate different modes of communication, and how exploring that can be a huge part of the fun of finding your [...]
Miss Simone continues her parade of looks for sissies with four outfits designed for everyday activities. She goes over the different materials including choice of shoes and other considerations. Each of the looks has it’s own charm, and Simone tells why she enjoys seeing her sissy wear each one depending on her mood.
Some think that in order for a submissive to feel controlled or dominated they need to be manhandled. I love the feel of his hand entangled in my hair, pulling my face to his, but the same effect can be achieved just as well with other means. The right words, tone of voice, and the [...]
In this long clip Danarama breaks down how to create an alternate leg harness for web frame bondage. This one is based on a series of single column ties, so after showing it once the Diablo Swing Orchestra steps in to accompany the rest of the tie. Dan also gives tips on how this tie [...]
What do you need to have a play piercing scene that is both fun and safe? Stefanos and Shay show you what they prefer, go over some other options, and make sure you think things through from start to finish. Shay also covers a few techniques for avoiding cross-contamination and Stefanos explains why not everything [...]
In this clip Mollena gives a few specific tips for the subs in power exchange relationships. She talks about how important it is to not keep troubles and stresses bottled up – even when it’s scary to honestly communicate. Mollena describes a few scenarios for using tact and self-awareness to help improve the flow of [...]
Now that the body’s in the bag, the collar is secure and the hood is all laced, Shae relaxes with her partner and talks about the final considerations as the sensory deprivation scene goes on. There are a few safety concerns worth repeating, but for the most part she simply talks about how the scene [...]
Miss Simone covers the other side of handcuff play – putting the hands in front for whatever purpose you’d like to put them to. There are many of the same safety issues as when they are in back, but Simone also covers issues particular to having the locks – and especially the keyholes – in [...]
Selina Minx realizes that in the heat of the moment it can be hard to express your boundaries or limits. Sometimes it’s desire, sometimes it’s embarrassment, sometimes it’s just momentum. Her solution is: rehearsal! Practice in front of the mirror, in the car, wherever you can, saying all the phrases that seem a little awkward. [...]
Danarama uses this long clip to show exactly step-by-step how to create the first of two leg harnesses that can be used with the frame. This particular version is similar to the body harness already created, though there are some particulars about securing and maintaining the tension that need to be addressed. He also talks [...]
Dov shows how to do the classic “cutback” throw, made famous in Indiana Jones movies and more. He demonstrates it from the front and the side, as well as showing the “spinning” technique to help get you started. This is a great how-to video for snake-whip enthusiasts.
That was your hottest scene yet, and as you and your lover collapse together in a pile of sweaty skin and smiles, everything seems right in the world. Fast forward a few hours or days, and now there is this sense of general unease or unhappiness which you can’t quite explain. Perhaps you feel exhausted, [...]
Now that you’ve seen the demonstration of negotiation, it’s important to remember that it’s only one example. In this clip Shay goes over the particular issues that you need to consider beyond the standard negotiation for a play scene. These include things like aftercare, dealing with blood, possible marks, and more. This is essential knowledge [...]