One of the interesting contradictions of kink is that while the image of the female dominant is absolutely iconic, the reality of the male submissive is often overlooked or avoided. We have no problems with characters showing the supreme feminine: Angelina Jolie in “Mr. & Mrs. Smith”, for example, or recurring characters on episodes of popular series like Law & Order. However, you rarely see the portrayal of the submissive masculine role, except in brief dehumanized snippets such as the “gimp” in “Pulp Fiction”. This wouldn’t normally be a problem – it’s only fiction, after all – except that it […]
It’s easy to think of the sexy ways that you can do power exchange within a scene. Enjoying that kind of play in the bedroom in the context of “Fuck me harder, sir!” and “Bow to your mistress, slave!” is so common that it’s almost a cliché. What happens when the power exchange moves beyond the bedroom? Is it possible, or ethical, to extend that kind of relationship outside into the rest of the world? There are definite concerns about consent when dominant and submissive behavior happens where other people can see it. It can change not only the way […]
What’s the best way to implement a new ritual or task into a D/s relationship? Sinclair Sexsmith breaks it down for you in this clip. The process involves a trial period, a check-in, and then more evaluation to make sure that the new protocol is nurturing the power exchange dynamic and also can be sustained. Also in Ideas for D/s Protocol Ideas for D/s Protocol: Sexy & Pragmatic Ideas for D/s Protocol, Sexy & Pragmatic, Part 2 Creating Protocols that Work for You Sexy Protocols Making Pragmatic Things Hot Creating Domestic Protocols Submissive Improvement Protocols Using Protocol for Personal Improvement […]
In the final sexy boot blacking clip Poetic shows how she enjoys “worshiping” the leather with her hands, her mouth, and body. She also shows how this can become a part of a larger ritual of dominance and submission if that’s how your dynamic works. Also in Sexy Bootblacking Sexy Bootblacking: What Is It? Sexy Bootblacking: Building Your Kit Sexy Bootblacking: Basic Cleaning Sexy Bootblacking: Advanced Cleaning Sexy Bootblacking: Basic Conditioning, Part 1 Sexy Bootblacking: Basic Conditioning, Part 2 Sexy Bootblacking: Sexy Conditioning for High Shine Sexy Bootblacking: Boot Worship Sexy Bootblacking: Tips You Should Know View the entire series
Kitty Stryker takes kink out of the realm of fantasy and describes ways you can bring it into your relationships in this first of a two-part video series. She describes several common fantasies such as foot and shoe fetish, spanking, or bondage and puts a realistic twist on them, showing how easy it is to add a little kink to your sexy times with each other. Also in Mixing Kinky Play with Sex Practical Examples of Mixing Kinky Play with Sex, Part 1 Practical Examples for Mixing Kinky Play with Sex Part 2 View the entire series
Sinclair Sexsmith talks about the “Submissive Playground”, a website and course that can give people a chance to more deeply explore their submissive sides. Sinclair is the “resident dominant” and can help guide you through the course, or you can do it with your own partner. The course runs in various cycles, and is available at www.SubmissivePlayground.com.