JP and Gray finish up their series on Rope Negotiation with some talk about aftercare, specifically for the top. They discuss the ways aftercare can appear to various people, and how to plan a scene so that you can come out of it energized rather than drained.
Selina Minx explains how the way you choose to negotiate can change the way that your wants and needs are fulfilled. She recommends a combination of specific details combined with general wishes, so that you can be sure to both maintain boundaries and also get the chance to use your imagination and spontaneity.
Graydancer and J.P. Robichaud move into the final segments of their rope negotiation series by talking about what the top needs. It’s rare that a rigger is asked “What do you want to get out of a scene?” but that is just as important as the bottom’s desires. They talk about ways to figure out [...]
Once you’ve taken everything under consideration into consideration, how to you go about making it happen and “closing the deal” with your chosen dominant? Mollena Williams helps you examine the difference between giving up everything and gaining everything you want, sometimes even when they’re happening at the same time! Consent, negotiation, self-identity, and awareness are all [...]
It’s not unheard of to check on the references of a dominant under consideration – in fact, Mollena argues, it’s a pretty good idea. She talks about what kinds of questions to ask, both of the dominant and of the people that they recommend. Failing that, there’s always the old fashioned idea of “dating” – [...]
Stefanos and Shay pack this super-size clip with tips that can help a submissive (and by extension, the dominant) ask the right questions and set the right limits during negotiation to have a fantastic scene. They discuss common strategies that work and common mistakes that don’t, and as a special treat you get to hear [...]
Mollena Williams, International Ms Leather 2010, begins a series to help power exchange players communicate more effectively. She points out that regardless of your relationship dynamic, the start of communication needs to come from respect. She outlines how that looks from various perspectives to lay a foundation for future talks on the how of D/s diplomacy. [...]
Dr. Richard Sprott from CARAS begins a reflection on healthy and unhealthy sexual attitudes and behaviors during this four-minute video. He first shares various workable definitions of psychological well-being and then uses them to help start the examination of sexual attitudes and behaviors. Dr. Sprott shares more in his next video on sexual health.
Stefanos and Chey demonstrate various techniques for kissing from a dominant space during this four-minute video. They discuss topics such as control, ownership, decision-making, teasing, positions, and much more as they show different grips, grabs, nibbles, and licks. And their submissive Jade succinctly shares her experience at the end.
Dr. Robert Dunlap continues his discussion on fetishes during this three-minute video. He outlines how a fetish develops from a psychological vantage point. He discusses the complexity of the multi-layered development, the impact of denial, the desire for connection, and more. Dr. Dunlap reflects on many kinky topics in future clips.
Ms. Cherries Jubalie discusses how to switch during this six-minute video. She considers switching from the perspective of both the top and the bottom and shares several examples illustrating how a top or bottom can explore the other side. In her next clip she discusses the pros and cons of self-identifying as a switch.