Blowjobs are an art form, and just like visual art, there are many different blowjob styles. One of the most popular types of blowjobs that you’ll see, especially in mainstream pornography, is the sloppy blowjob. A sloppy blowjob is defined by a lot of saliva, which typically involves spitting or drooling. It doesn’t necessarily have to involve deep-throating, gagging, or face-fucking, but some people find the intersection of these techniques to be extremely arousing, and they can be combined to create a powerful display of control and force during a scene. Why give a sloppy blowjob? Because it can be […]
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Top 5 Tips For Going to Your First Fetlife Event In-Person
You’ve written your fucking awesome Fetlife profile, you’ve joined some groups, and you’re about to meet people from Fetlife for the first time. At this point some folks may feel deeply anxious, and others may feel euphoric. No matter how you’re feeling, take a deep breath and pause everything you’re doing to read this before you run off to your first Fetlife gathering in meatspace (otherwise known as in real life or IRL.) The kink community has social expectations just like the vanilla community does, and you probably want to make sure you’re up-to-date on all of your kink etiquette […]
Dungeon Monitors: The Key to Hot & Kinky Spaces
“Who’s the DM?” It’s a question that is heard in kink playspaces a lot, and I confess when I first heard it my thought was Somebody’s playing Dungeons & Dragons? Instead I learned that the “DM” (sometimes called by other names like “event monitor” depending on the venue) was a person whose job it was to ensure that the play space rules were adhered to by the kinksters in the room, as well as overwatching everyone in the room to make sure someone didn’t get too carried away, and try that high-impact single-point fire blood draw neck suspension consensual non-consent […]
Six Contributing Factors to Nerve Damage in Bondage aka The Six Horsepeople of the Nervepocalypse
No one wants their bondage scene crashed by the nervepocalypse! Most incidents of nerve damage from bondage are not as straightforward as they might seem, but rather involve an interplay of multiple “horsepeople of the nervepocalypse.” Being aware of these factors can help you mitigate risks and stay in bondage “heaven!” Note that this isn’t intended to be an exhaustive list of every possible factor, but rather an overview of some of the most salient ones, which include: Individual differences in nerve vulnerability Anatomical location (where on the body you are tying) Duration of force Severity and type of force […]
We Stand Together. We Resist.
This post is long overdue. Watching the events of the last year unfold has been particularly horrifying, and I’ve struggled to articulate a response to engage with politics – not just in my personal life but as a women-owned sex-oriented business in the current climate. In person I never shy away from difficult or socially awkward conversations; in fact in some ways they’re the only conversations I have. But over the past several months I’ve felt shocked into a kind of paralyzed silence online. But with the newest horror – the rescinding of President Obama’s policy recognizing the human rights […]
Talking dirty about talking dirty
“You use the word Bitch a lot.” It was our second hotel vacation in a month, and after playing all day we were unwinding and unpacking over dinner. The conversation actually began about a month earlier. I’d called her ‘bitch’ in flagrante, and noted afterwards how odd it felt on my lips. Mind you, not odd because I’d just called my best beloved the archetypical female insult: in a spirit of profound love I’d called her much much worse. No – it felt odd because it wasn’t a word I’d used much (until that point apparently), and so it pulled […]